the worst kind of sexism is the kind that’s quiet and pervasive. that sits and lurks and slips out of the mouths of men that you like and trust. when people casually dismiss your humanity and don’t even realize they’ve done exactly that. when it’s so casual and natural that sometimes you don’t even catch it.
This nailed my anger at the whole Brony phenomenon perfectly, yo.
I only just heard about a teen girl being harassed with rape threats because she spoke up about the triggery “Princess Molestia” meme rampant in the fandom. I think this post is very relevant.
This! This nails what makes me so uncomfortable about brony stuff. I don’t care if guys like “girl” things. What bothers me is how they move into a female space and take it over and make it all about their dicks, then act offended when women get uncomfortable with it. They cannot imagine a space that they can’t co-opt and make their own.
BUT they also can’t imagine women having their own space OR invading a “male” space like comic books or science fiction. Jesus fucking christ, dudes, could we women get a little fucking space?
This is exactly why you should never mention the new My Little Pony around me. I got into it right from the start, because I saw what they were trying to do, including girls who were shy, outgoing, athletic, bookish, glamorous, tomboyish, and making them best friends instead of rivals. Saying that they were ALL VALID. I had to support that!
And for the past four years I’ve watched bronies move in, doing all of the above mentioned. And I don’t care if you identify as one and “aren’t one of THOSE guys”, I still think you’re disgusting. Because if you REALLY understood feminism, and the importance of a show like that, you would also understand the importance of giving girls (and boys who like “girly” toys and cartoons) spaces to be comfortable and express it. You are still part of the problem, and you’re a selfish wad whether you own a Twilight Sparkle fuckpuppet or not.
Seriously, I am furious over what happened to My Little Pony. FURIOUS.
I recently learned from Black female bloggers that we are appropriating this word. A Black feminist named Kimberlé Williams Crenshaw came up with the term intersectionality to talk about how race and gender intersect for women of color. It was never intended for white women to use to describe our own feminism or an allegiance with woc—or, worse yet, intersecting oppressions for white people.
We can be anti-racist, we can be allies, we can be social justice bloggers, but we are not “intersectional.” We don’t experience the intersection of race and gender.
The thing is Crenshaw never gets credit for coining this term and white feminists ignore the fact a Black woman invented it to describe her experience as a Black woman, and for other women of color to use. We as white feminists often use this term without ever engaging with Black womanists and Black feminists or other feminists of color, which constantly sidelining their issues, and being racist ourselves or not checking our privilege.The term can be used as a shield for white feminists. For example, I’ve seen a white feminist go to a Desi woman’s ask box, when she was talking about racist white feminists in her grad program and tell her, “oh it’s too bad there are no intersectional feminists in your school!” And she had to tell them, “nope they call themselves intersectional feminists, but they are still racist and throw woc under the bus.”
Some of us like to think if we call ourselves “intersectional” than we’re not like ~THOSE~ white feminists those ~non-intersectional~ white feminists, but that’s not true. We are white feminists—we have white female privilege. We benefit just as much from white supremacy as anyone else and we are just as able to be racist and exclude, talk over, invalidate or ignore woc.
I used to use this term for myself and I used to use this term to describe “intersections” of my oppressions. But this isn’t right. That’s not how the term was intended. And us white people steal too much shit from POC—especially women of color—ESPECIALLY Black women.
So let’s stop appropriating this term and give it back to the women who it was made for—women of color.
I learn so much from this blog right here.
Need to go reevaluate the about me.
*gasp* Friend is lonely?
on my way friend… woah wait…yes
I dance to maek you happy
did friend like dance?
I shall battle the sadness!
friend isso pretty, she shouldnt feel sad or lonely
lots of people love friend! shes funny
I give huggles to friend
when friend is happy, we are happy
remember to smile okay? Smile as you read this!
you are not alone friend. I am here. Be happy.